UNFULFILLED RELATIONSHIPS

We have always been hearing about unfulfilled love. When two people maintain a relationship that cannot be fully realized, often the reason for it is the existence of another person or the attachments to something that has a higher priority than the relationship itself. Man is an animal and as all animals he has an instinct for the hunt that never goes away. When he enters a relationship that cannot be realized, he never considers the consequences and the pain he will cause to the others. And consequences are painful, they erode self-respect, give rise to jealousy that can become an obsession or illness, and the feeling of failure and guilt due to dishonesty follow for the rest of the life, regardless of whether one had the role of the hunter, the prey, or the victim.
The emotions in an unfulfilled relationship are not easy to understand. They are damaging because they destroy self-confidence. We assign the guilt to the others, and cannot understand that the hunter and the prey are equal partners in an unrealized relationship.
There is nothing quite as effective as such relationships to induce maturation and transformation, and they usually come through pain and helplessness.
Everything in life happens for a reason, even the beginning of an unfulfilled relationship. It is up to us to decide how will we react and how will we treat ourselves and the others in this case.
Often such relationships activate hidden emotions and childhood frustrations.
Astrology can recognize the predisposition towards unfulfilled relationships in an individual horoscope and can assist in understanding the underlying reasons why one enters such relationships and what prevents them from transforming and realizing.
There are several types of unfulfilled relationships.
   

The seeking of ideals and emotional immaturity

One of the partners is free and does not want to form deep attachments because the other person does not fulfill the criteria they want to establish in a relationship. Usually it is an emotionally immature person that is afraid of responsibilities. Their life is marked by social escape into group activities, forced athletic activities, or the choice of the partner that does not accept him and which will be non-realistically idolized.
Venus, the planet of given love is as jeopardized as the Moon, the planet of accepted love. The person in question has most likely grown up in a setting where they did not receive love and where they did not learn to return love. Rarely do those with love planets in jeopardy feel truly happy, and that only happens if they manage to recognize a partner that has a harmonious relationship of their planets with their jeopardized planets, and that often happens late in life when they have already tried all the other types of relationships.



Purely sexual relationship

A relationship based on physical – sexual attraction and which took off at the very beginning. In such a relationship one partner does not allow closer spiritual bonding, usually the male. While the female accepts that kind of a relationship at the beginning, she soon starts looking for more, and that is when the problems start. Ego feels threatened; self-confidence is shaken because somewhere out there is a person that shares 'something more' with the partner. If there is a difference in age, the older partner will ease his conscience and supplement the lack of emotions with presents and the promises of better times to come. The younger partner will be temporary satisfied until the relationship burns out due to problems. Oftentimes such relationships produce children that ultimately have to pay for the mistakes of their parents.


Purely intellectual relationship

Usually is achieved with a partner that has sexual problems that can be masked successfully or unsuccessfully, depending on the person. Such a relationship can last the whole life. Each of the actors assigns the characteristics to the other partner that is far from reality.
Today, with the advent of cell phones and the Internet, there are quite a lot of these relationships. They often damage the psyche and inflict permanent wounds on the partner that is more in love and cannot understand the reasons why this relationship is not realized.

On and off relationships

These relationships can also last the entire life. Usually they are born from a purely sexual relationship that has become something more. The partners meet occasionally when they take some time off from their business or legal obligations. The time they spend together is limited to few hours. They only share the good times, do not expect much and they are aware of the limitations they accept. This relationship becomes risky if the discretion is disregarded or if their everyday partners meet or if they know each other and a 'friendship' forms.
   
Relationships that are not realized or are unfulfilled are between two partners and another 'person' that is in a relationship with one of the partners and which prevents full realization. That other 'person' does not have to be a spouse. It can be a mother, a child, a friend, work, even an animal. In astrological practice we have often encountered people who have given up on the relationship because their partner would not accept their cat or a dog. It can also be the career of one of the partners that was not accepted or looked down upon by the other
partner, as it happens often to artists due to their lack of stable income.

All these relationships have something in common.
Partner's love was not first and foremost. And when we have to share love with someone, whether it is a third partner, an ideal, or anything else, we feel disappointed, cheated, and lost.
People who have no luck in love have a need to stay alone. When they imagine themselves in a fully realized relationship, they see that is not what they want.
All relationships provide an opportunity for spiritual growth, and most of all relationships in unfulfilled ones. A relationship is recognition of existence.
Astrology gives us an opportunity to discover the reasons for failure of a relationship.
   

The positions of Venus will tell us what and in which way a person loves.
The positions of the Moon show us if they are capable of receiving love and in which way.
Mars and Pluto will tell us about sexuality while Mercury will show us the secrets of the soul.
Ascendant will show us what is expected from the partner.