THOUGHTS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

In great part our lives revolve around personal relationships.
They are the source of our happiness and our frustrations. That is why we are always seeking the way to improve the quality of our relationships.
Even though some of us would use the astrology primarily to compare our horoscope with the horoscope of our partner, our birth chart is the beginning and the source of all that happens in our close personal relationships.
Starting with the Moon that symbolizes our emotions and spontaneous reactions, but also speaks about our first love – emotional elationship with our mother. That adopted emotional partner will follow us our entire lives and we will observe all our love experiences through that filter.
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The second signifier of our sentimental needs is Venus – through which we build the system of personal values and our self confidence – and find our place in the world.
Of course, the fashion in which we conquer the objects of our desires will be shown by Mars in our horoscope – after all, it will indicate how familiar we are with instinctive and sexual part of our personality.
Each one of us would define love in a different way – some would talk about understanding and communication, some would talk about passion, some about meeting a soul mate, some about respect. Images and expectations form our experiences from the earliest childhood, puberty, and even later than that.
Naturally, there are images and patterns placed before us by modern society that market the story about eternal, all-encompassing, primarily romantic love. Among all that we may find ourselves fairly confused. Besides, it is difficult to be satisfied with oneself – we have a feeling that we cater to the expected and desired standards, that everyone else has it better than us – and naturally we are not happy about it. We have issues with our own values and self-confidence.

One of the main subjects we are focused on when we look at our own or somebody else’s horoscope is personal relationships. How successful will they be, how much satisfaction will we achieve in that area, what kind of a partner fits us, what we really need to achieve such ever-so-desired happiness in love?

Our close relationships are based on the image that we have of ourselves and on the image we have of the world that surrounds us.
Many of us will say that we can only love someone else to the degree that we love ourselves. Philosophically this is truly acceptable, but it is questionable how much we can really apply that in practice, in our own lives. Many of us think that they did not deserve to be loved, that they are unworthy of love.
Even when they are give the chance to find love and live in a happy relationship, they cannot recognize it, nor accept what is offered to them.
The others are really the best mirror of ourselves – we can see what really is happening to us by observing what kind of people we are surrounded by, what kind of relationships we establish.

When there is no more certain energy within us, we do not attract a certain type of people – we are not interesting to them, nor are they interesting to us.
When we change, our relationships change, as well.
That can be truly difficult because we lose people and relationships that are very important to us, but we can still be happy because that is the sign that we are changing.