PARENTS AND CHILDREN

We know how important is the role of parents in the development of children. The relationship with parents influences the psychological formations of the child, its attitudes and opinions of the world, along with their interpersonal relationships.
Astrologically speaking, there are several indicators that address this issue. What needs to be mentioned is that the birth chart is the picture of our inner world, it shows the personal perspective of things, and that means that we are subjective in our opinion of our parents.

That is why children of the same parents may have an entirely different opinion of them, which can be seen in their horoscopes. Often these opinions are completely opposite.
But let's start at the beginning.
Two basic indicators of the parent's role in life are the Moon and the Sun. The Moon and the Sun, which are also called the Lights in astrology, represent two basic parts of human psyche.
The Moon represents female, receptive, passive, nurturing aspect of our personality. We can identify it with what Jung called anima. Anima is the female part of the psyche in both women and men.

The Moon in the horoscope of children, as well as adults, indicates the relationship with the mother. It is the indicator of our deepest emotional needs, it shows in which way do we want to be taken care for, and what we need to be felt safe and protected. All this is personified in mother personality, which role is particularly important during first three years of life.
During that period, the child is like a sponge – it absorbs all that happens around him, mostly at nonverbal, instinctive, emotional level.
The position of the Moon in the birth chart shows what are the needs of the child in the earliest age. The Moon for air signs likes when it is spoken to, for fire signs when it is given enough room and freedom for creativity and games, for earth signs the most important thing is to be fed and kept warm, while for water signs the most important thing is gentleness and compassion.


The relationship with the mother is our first love – emotions and experiences from that period will permanently mark our emotional life.

 The Sun, male, active, conscious,  creative principle, is the signifier of  the image of the father.  Psychologically it represents the male  part of personality – animus. The  relationship with father is very important  for further development of the child. His  role in life helps the development of the  identity, it is the beginning of the  relationship with the authority, it teaches  us how to reach independence and self-sufficiency.
On the quality of this relationship depends the child's sense of security and self-confidence, just as its ability to face the challenges of life. The contact with the father is crucial for further development of the child after the third year of life, when the child becomes aware of itself, that is, when it does not completely identify with the mother.
In this period the father can become our hero, but also the person we resist, and the position of the Sun in the birth chart further clarifies this.
The aspects of the Sun are especially important – when they are harmonious the child has a positive attitude towards the father and when they are disharmonious they can create tensions in the relationship.

Besides the Sun and the Moon, the relationship with the parents can be observed through the fourth and the tenth house in the horoscope.

The fourth house is, among other things, the house of the family, home, homeland, and it is the house of our personal 'roots' – an area that is strongly affected by our instincts. The fourth house describes the relationship with the parent that, in our view, is more in the shadow, but at the same time very close and has a protective relationship with us.
The tenth house is the one that indicates our position in the social and professional aspect of our life, and our relationship with the authority. Our attitude towards the authority is above all constructed through our relationship with our parents that has a great effect on us, and that we perhaps fear a little, at the same time trying to appease it and confront it. More detailed information will be certainly provided by the position of the fourth and the tenth house in the zodiac signs, as well as the planets that are in them.

As important is the relationship between the Sun and the Moon in horoscope, equally important is the balance between the fourth and tenth house which are opposite one to another. While we are children, we cannot affect what happens around us too much. But when we grow up, we have to put in a lot of effort to find out what are relationship with our parents really is like, how much effect they had on us, and what consequences it has in our adult life. And, of course, to try to make the best out of it.